| Myer Briggs personality profile:
"Fellow workers of INTJs often feel
as if the INTJ can see right through them, and often believe that
the INTJ finds them wanting. This tendency of people to feel
transparent in the presence of the INTJ often result in
relationships which have psychological distance. Thus colleagues
find the INTJ apparently unemotional and, at times, cold and
dispassionate. Because of their tendency to drive others as hard
as they do themselves, INTJs often seem demanding and difficult
to satisfy. INTJs are high achievers in school and on the job. On
the job, they take the goals of an institution seriously and
continually strive to respond to these goals. They make
dedicated, loyal employees whose loyalties are directed toward
the system, rather than toward individuals within the system. So
as the people of an institution come and go, the INTJs have
little difficulty-unlike the NFs, who have their loyalties
involved more with persons than offices. INTJs tend, ordinarily,
to verbalize the positive and eschew comments of a negative
nature; they are more interested in moving an institution forward
than commiserating about mistakes of the past. "
Conversational tips for those wanting to speak to INTJs:
- Don't expect them to respect you or your viewpoints just because you say so.
INTJ respect must be earned.
- Be willing to concede when you are wrong. The average INTJ respects the truth
over being "right". Withdraw your erroneous comment and admit your mistake and they
will see you as a very reasonable person. Stick to erroneous comments and they will
think you are an irrational idiot and treat everything you say as being questionable.
- Do not feed them a line of bull.
- Expect debate. INTJs like to tear ideas apart and prove their worthiness. They will
even argue a point they don't actually support for the sake of argument.
- Do not mistake the strength of your conviction with the strength of your argument.
INTJs do not need to believe in a position to argue it or argue it well. Therefore, it
will take more than fervor to sway them.
- Do not be surprised at sarcasm.
- Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions. They are extremely
open-minded to possibilities, but they will quickly discard any idea that is unfeasible.
INTJ open-mindedness means that they are willing to have a
go at an idea by trying to pull it apart. This horrifies people who expect oohs
and ahhs and reverence. The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea is to ignore it,
because that means it's not even interesting enough to deconstruct.
This also means that they will not just accept any viewpoint that is presented to them.
The bottom line is "Does it work?" - end discussion.
- Do not expect INTJs to actually care about how you view them. They already know
that they are arrogant bastards with a morbid sense of humor. Telling them the obvious
accomplishes nothing.
Do’s and Don’ts (mostly Don’t’s):
DON’T ask one of us a question unless you really want a
truthful answer. We will not sugarcoat it for you, and we don’t tell
white lies to spare anyone’s feelings. Do you really, truthfully want
to know if those jeans make your ass look fat? Normal person’s
response: “Um, no, you look fine. Really.” Honest person’s response:
“Well… maybe a different belt would help?” INTJ’s response: “No, it’s
not the jeans that make your ass look fat; it’s your fat ass that makes
your ass look fat.”
DON’T express an opinion to us unless you are prepared to
back it up with sound arguments and well pedigreed facts and evidence.
Otherwise do not be surprised when we logically shred your opinion for
you and hand it back to you in tatters.
DON’T be repetitive. We have absolutely no patience for that.
There’s no need to cover old ground, and we heard you the first time,
unless we were zoning out. And if we were zoning out it’s probably
because you started repeating yourself.
DON’T take 100 words to say what could have been said in 10.
Content-free speech will cause an INTJ to zone out faster than
repeating yourself.
DON’T engage us in “small talk”. Keep in mind that you are
competing for our attention with all the voices in our heads, and they
are bound to be far more interesting than you. The voices are
constantly regaling us with things like anagrams of Wayne Newton
(Wanton Weeny, We Annoy Newt, New Yawn Tone, …) and candidate titles
for parodies of “Carry On My Wayward Son” (“Cary Grant Was Six Foot
One”, “Curry On My Egg Foo Yung”, …). Do you really think your talk of
the weather or your six year old’s soccer league is going to be more
compelling than that? Please. Be realistic.
DON’T look at an INTJ in bewilderment when he/she discloses
an idea to you. Yes, it may have required a double somersault of
imagination to reach their conclusion. Ask them to take you through it
step-by-step; they will happily oblige. Ideas are of ultimate
importance to an INTJ, and it is a compliment for them to share their
ideas with you. Similarly, failing to give due attention to an INTJ’s
idea is a high form of insult. PET PEEVES: * We dislike surprises.
* We hate having decisions made for us. We’re INTJs; nobody is more qualified to make decisions than us.
* We dislike getting gifts, as it burdens us with the need to reciprocate.
* We hate small talk, gossip, and relationship/people talk. Really anything mundane is beneath us.
* We get particularly annoyed by attacks on our intelligence, competence, and integrity.
* We hate it when people try to manipulate us.
* Insincerity and lying.
* People interfering with our alone time.
* People who are chronically late.
* People who talk incessantly. We will just engage our “nod and smile” autopilot and mentally go somewhere else.
* People who are stupid, arrogant, opinionated, and/or closed minded.
* Crooked/badly placed pictures.
* Superficiality (body piercings, pimped out cars, brightly colored anything).
* Salespeople. INTJs are immune to emotional manipulation and have zero tolerance for lines of bullshit.
* Incorrect grammar and word usage.
* People who waste our time (see Salespeople, people interfering with our alone time, etc.). --------
There you have it.. what it takes make me stick around. The list of famous INTJs is quite impressive, though a good percentage of the women on the list ended up single, though incredibly successful. What's really neat though, is that the fictional character, Miranda Priestly, is the epitome of INTJ. Yenno what? The fictional character went through 3 divorces, had twins, was at the top of the fashion food chain, and secured her seat as EIC of Runway... all the while have everyone fall at her feet. If that's what it means to be an INTJ, then bring it on! Sure, people tell me I'm aloof, careless, mean, and manipulative all the time.. but that's the rat race kiddos. To think otherwise would be silly. That's all.
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